Lessons From The Well - Seeing Value In her book "Unplanned," Abby Johnson, the world's preeminent authority on Pro-Life work after abortion, recounts her impression of the Pro-Lifers who picketed outside her Planned Parenthood facility in the early days of her tenure in the industry. As a naive college student who had begun volunteering as a parking lot escort, the constant presence of judgmental onlookers and disruptive prayer warriors left a bad taste in her mouth. To Johnson, the picketers embodied hate and a staunchly anti-feminist ideology that clashed with the worldview she had embraced in college. Planned Parenthood's training, which marked all Pro-Lifers as "the enemy," also colored her perspective. Though Johnson would later realize that the majority of these individuals were a peaceful and powerful presence of conviction, at the time their fault was all but proven by the extremists who screamed at women that they were evil, degenerate people while waving pictures of mutilated baby body parts (which Johnson trusted were fake). As a result, Johnson remained confident in her side of the issue for decades. After all, how could her care of women be wrong if the other side hurled insults and abuse as outreach tactics?
Softened by 40 Days for Life's gentler approach to ministry (spearheaded by Sean Carney around the same time Johnson was rising in Planned Parenthood's ranks) and a few more decades of experience, blunt acts of Pro-Life action are few and far between nowadays. Most Pro-Life advocates agree that prayer, calm presence, and a listening ear are far more effective while championing life and often encourage those in need to approach them without fear of condemnation. Unfortunately, belligerent behavior and, more often, rampant preconceptions are still sometimes hurled at women seeking answers (albeit in the wrong place at Planned Parenthood). These ungracious tactics fail spectacularly 99% of the time and completely ignore the humanity of women with unplanned pregnancies. At their most vulnerable, these women need love and practical aid, not judgement.
For a clear picture of what gracious interaction should look like we can turn to John 4, in which the author recounts Jesus' interaction with a Samaritan woman that was as groundbreaking as it was unexpected. Finding Jesus (a Jewish man) at a Samaritan source of water that she herself had slunk to (as an outcast from her own society), the Samaritan woman didn't expect to have any (let alone a positive) interaction while running her errand. And yet, Jesus spoke to her kindly, revealed His true deific identity, and bestowed profound grace upon her. What makes these acts truly spectacular, though, is the fact that, as God, Jesus knew the Samaritan woman better than she knew herself. Every fault, sin, evil act, and doubt. Her tattered life and her human attempts to fix it. Everything she had ever done that made her unworthy to even grovel in His perfect presence was utterly laid bare in those moments as the God of the universe existing on earth looked the wreckage of His perfect creation in the eye. And despite it all, He still loved her. He didn't love her regardless of everything she'd done; He only loved her, and that changed her life.
Declaring to the world shortly afterwards, "Come, see the man who told me all I ever did. Can this be the Christ?" the Samaritan woman may not have known exactly how powerful her conversation with the Man from Galilee was, but she knew something had changed, enough that she could feel the weight of the world lift from her shoulders such that she wanted to tell that same world about her newfound peace. The Samaritan woman got a glimpse of heaven, revealed through love, which gave her the inspiration to be different than all she had been.
We cannot see the complete ruin of someone's life, and we have no power to correct the small pieces of visible wreckage...but we are called to be Christ's hands and feet on earth, and in that capacity, love, not anger, is required. Returning to Abby Johnson's misconceptions: She recalls being strangely impacted by the presence of the quiet, prayerful, and friendly Pro-Lifer's outside her gate. She couldn't understand how they could be so kind and exude an unquenchable joy to everyone they encountered or how the could show up every day - rain or shine, blue sky or sleet - and still sing hymns, pray without ceasing, and wish her a good morning. It was unnatural but fiercely life-saving and evident of divine peace. When Johnson eventually left Planned Parenthood, she sought out these Pro-Lifers because she knew (despite everything she had done) they truly loved her and would do anything to see her freed from her past. Abortion-seeking and post-abortive women who have encountered this brand of Pro-Life work recount similar stories. Within the movement they found forgiveness and hope because their actions simply didn't matter, only their worth as children of God.
Do you see God-gifted value in everyone you encounter? Abortion seekers? Pro-Choice Individuals? Abortion Workers? Do you see them as this world sees them or as the beautiful creations of Christ that they are meant to be? Can you love them, sins and all? Every human being has been purposely made and is, therefore, deserving of grace. Implement the lesson from the woman at the well, and dare to see that worth.
